How the Heck do I find my Edge?
Updated: Nov 16, 2022
Your Magenta Monday Magic.
A lot of women have asked me, “Bridget, what does it mean to live your truth?”
It’s really the culmination of all the Pillars combined.
Living your Truth means you…
show up for yourself.
start being brave
cultivate honest relationships with yourself and others,
live each day with intention
choose to live fully self-expressed,
prioritize your health.
I know it seems like a lot, right?
But remember, Living your Truth doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a work in progress. You have to be open and willing to choose it every day.
But one thing is for sure - the risk of not living it is far more damaging than the discomfort of discovering and expressing it.
Now I’m not just talking about life-altering change. Yes, Living your Truth can be found in the big things. But it doesn't have to be.
In fact, I would argue that there are many ways you can start to Live your Truth through baby steps. Simply by noticing the little things you do almost every day that abdicate your power.
Yes - your Truth exists in the noticing.
Noticing when you don’t speak up when someone cuts in front of you at the grocery store.’
Or noticing when you tell your friend that you would love to go out when what you really want is a quiet night at home in your loosies.
Haven’t we all been guilty of this in different ways?
Okay… confession time!
The other day I went out to dinner with a good friend. At the restaurant, we followed the host through the restaurant and were led to a 6-person round table when it was just the two of us.
Ugh. I really can’t stand that for some reason. It made me feel uncomfortable and my first instinct was to ask to switch to a table for two…but did I Live my Truth and ask for a different table?
No, I did not!
I just ignored the inner voice that nudged me to ask for a better table and there I uncomfortably sat.
Why didn’t I speak up? It wasn’t a big deal. Not nearly a life-or-death situation. And if I had spoken up, the world would have kept right on spinning...
Maybe it was an engrained message from my childhood, or early in my career, that told me not to cause a stink.
Don’t rock the boat, Bridget. Just suck it up and deal with it.
Looking back now, while it was ‘fine,’ would our meal and conversation have been better by being at a more intimate table?
Absolutely! That restaurant was quite loud that day.
Am I going to beat myself up over it?
No! Of course, just being there with my good friend was the ‘heart’ of the meal.
Did I make a mental note to speak up next time and ask for what I need?
The power of the moment for me was in noticing without judgment.
And, when I noticed that I chose not to listen to that gut instinct it made me curious. (Okay, and a bit annoyed with myself.)
I wondered, ‘Why did I do that?”
The way I look at it is that one-night dining at a less-than-desirable table does not an inauthentic person make!
The gift in it was that I became aware of where my edge is, so now I know where to push it just a little bit next time and that’s going to also be your Mindshift challenge this week!
It’s the 1° shift that makes the biggest difference over time.
This week is about ‘the noticing” for you.
Take a moment to reflect…
What is your ‘edge’?
Where have you found yourself not asking for what you want? It could be a big thing or a small thing.
How can you push your comfort zone to speak up or ask for what you want?
If you are reading this thinking, ‘But, Bridget, I have no problem moving tables’ then let me ask you this.
Are you abdicating your power in other ways?
It could be by doing whatever your husband or partner wants to do on the weekends instead of doing what you really want to do - curling up with a good book or going on a walk with a friend.
It’s the little shifts in perception you make that will help you to “find your truth and then live it.” - Trudy Vesotsky
And, I want you to remember that this is an ongoing learning process so it’s important to listen to yourself with compassion, rather than judgment.
PS. I’d love to hear what living with intention means to you! I invite you to share your thoughts and ideas with us in Thriving Mom’s Collective FB Group!
Living BRIGHTer is...
B - Be Brave
R - Cultivate Relationships
I - Live with Intention
G - Practice Gratitude
H - Prioritize Health
T - Live your Truth
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