I needed a Gratitude Intervention
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What you focus on expands.
This can be either good or bad news - depending on what you choose to focus on!
This recent post about my daughter illustrates this...
'Feeling all the feels today as our eldest sets off on her journey on the red-eye tonight to NYC. She is 26 and moved home in June to reset, save money and figure out what was next for her.
I find myself teetering on the edge of tears thinking about all the good times we've had in the past 8 months and how much I'll miss her - sitting in the sun meditating during her lunch break, leaving her coffee cup in the sink for just a little too long, cooking dinner with her dad, challenging us to get out of our routine and always being up for getting sushi - on our dime of course!’
I think as moms, we can all relate, right? - whether you have older kids going away to college or littles learning how to walk. And even though we all know this is how it works, it still stings when it actually happens.
At the airport that evening, both her dad and I were crying as we hugged her goodbye.
As we drove home, I asked him, ‘How lucky are we that we love being around our kids so much that it hurts so badly when they leave?'
In that moment I had a choice: To stay mired in the past, wishing for the situation to be other than what it was. Missing her and thinking about all the fun times we had. And being miserable, and probably making everyone else around me miserable too.
Or to practice gratitude.
To focus on how lucky we are to have raised this amazing young woman who is now spreading her wings and starting to fly. To be grateful for all the fun times we did have, and to look forward to new adventures in the future.
I chose a gratitude intervention.
Does it mean that the sadness evaporated altogether? No. But it did fade with each of the successive days and evolved into excitement as she shared her adventures in a new city, found her first apartment, and planned for my visit to help her settle in.
Then the good feelings I chose to focus on expanded, extending to not only impact the immediate situation - my daughter moving away - but have also impacted everything in my life.
I was then able to move forward, being present to and sharing in her experience, creating new memories instead of being miserable about what no longer was.
“What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it.” — Oprah Winfrey
Make a list of the things you take for granted - your home, your spouse or partner, your health, your kids.
Imagine what it would feel like to be without that thing? What would your life be like?
Imagine getting them back one by one. Consider how grateful you would be.
Continue with gratitude practice - 3 things every night.
March’s Mindshift is all about leaving the negative mindset behind and basking in absolute gratitude for who we are and what we have in our lives.
Choose to live the good life!
Living BRIGHTer is...
B - Be Brave
R - Cultivate Relationships
I - Live with Intention
G - Practice Gratitude
H - Prioritize Health
T - Live your Truth
What is Magenta?
The color magenta is one of universal harmony and emotional balance. It is spiritual yet practical, encouraging common sense and a balanced outlook on life. Magenta helps to create harmony and balance in every aspect of life; physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
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