Updated: Sep 2
Your Magenta Monday Magic.
Definition of Transformation: A thorough or dramatic change in form and/or appearance.
Last week ago I talked about the origins of the phrase ‘midlife crisis’ and how it really ticked me off to learn that so many women out there are using that term to label what they’re feeling right now.
“Language creates reality. Words have power. Speak always to create joy.” Deepak Chopra
Maybe you aren’t using the exact words: ‘midlife crisis,’ but you might be having other thoughts about yourself that are just as damaging – and the words you’re using may actually be making it worse.
Those words, including women midlife crisis, may show up in the way you compare yourself to others as you wonder why everyone but you seems to have it all together.
Or maybe you are wondering how you are so unhappy when you have such a great life?
Or maybe you feel shame because you love your family/job/partner but you just feel like something is missing?
Or maybe you just feel like there should be something more for you, for your life?
All these thoughts – and the myriad others – that run through the minds of women in midlife, can often lead to the same conclusion: ‘There’s something wrong with me.’
Those are powerful words. And it’s not true.
That’s why it irritates me so much to hear of women searching online using that terminology, including signs of midlife crisis in a woman.
Because if you believe or say you are in crisis then as far as you’re concerned you are in crisis.
And if you believe or say there is something wrong with you, then there is something wrong with you.
If you believe or say that you have shame around wanting more from life, then you are ashamed.
And it doesn’t have to be that way. We don’t even have to take action to change it. All we need to do is shift our thoughts and our words, even if we are going through a midlife crisis as a woman.
“If we understood the power of our thoughts, we would guard them more closely. If we understood the awesome power of our words, we would prefer silence to almost anything negative. In our thoughts and words, we create our own weaknesses and our own strengths.” Betty Eadie
It’s the 1° shift that makes the biggest difference over time.
What would happen if you turned this whole conversation on its head and looked for the positive?
What if this stage of your life is simply a chapter yet unwritten, and instead of telling yourself something is wrong, you empower yourself to create a new story?
What if ...
You can love your family and want something that’s just for you.
You are grateful for your job and want to try something new.
You can mourn the loss of a loved one and cultivate joy.
You don’t have to live your life in either/or’s. You can live in the space of both– you can have one and the other.
Sit with that for a while and see if you can shift any fear you have about figuring out what’s next into excitement instead.
You are the one in control of the thoughts you choose to focus on. You’re the one telling the story of your life. Why not shift your mindset and start considering all the things there are to be excited about, rather than focusing on the fear and doubt as you move through your next transition?
You know that ‘Christmas morning as a kid’ feeling of unlimited excitement and possibility? I want you to have that feeling about being a woman in midlife - even in the midst of the hot flashes, confusion and overwhelm. And it’s entirely possible for you to shift into that mindset – if you choose it.
And - you can dance (with abandon) through the transitions in front of you just by shifting the way you’re looking at them. And before you know it, you’ll experience the wonder and amazement of how all these transitions have contributed to the transformation of you.
Living BRIGHTer is...
B - Be Brave
R - Cultivate Relationships
I - Live with Intention
G - Practice Gratitude
H - Prioritize Health
T - Live your Truth
What is Magenta?
The color magenta is one of universal harmony and emotional balance. It is spiritual yet practical, encouraging common sense and a balanced outlook on life. Magenta helps to create harmony and balance in every aspect of life; physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
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