Your Magenta Monday Magic.
As we wrap up our month of cultivating relationships, we have to talk about the importance of friends through the seasons of our lives.
Our fierce, female (and male!) friendships are some of the most important relationships we have and bring a lot of support, laughter, and joy.
"Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom."—Marcel Proust
Friends just make life BRIGHTer.
Until one day they don’t. Then what?
Sometimes, your friendship has reached a point where it’s time to move on.
That’s right….the friend break up.
It can be incredibly painful to end a friendship that no longer feeds your soul, or even worse -is detrimental or toxict to your sense of well-being.
This is one area I hear a lot about in my work with my clients. It can also happen with friends that you’ve had for a long time or that you thought were your ‘ride or die’ besties.
So what gives?
Sometimes it’s seasonal - the friendship has been incredibly supportive and fulfilling - but it’s just time to move on and go your separate ways.
Other times, as you enter this new phase of your life, where you are no longer a mom-on-call, and you start to explore and discover who you are beyond being a mom, those friendships are no longer in alignment with your authentic self.
On your self-discovery journey, as you gain clarity on your values, you start to realize that something feels off about the relationship and maybe you can’t put your finger on it.
That’s when you need to listen to your intuition.
While this disconnect can happen with all relationships, I see it with friendships quite a bit in the work that I do as my clients experience transformation.
It happens to all of us at one time or another, myself included. .
And despite the fact that you may know deep down inside you have to ‘break up’, it can be very painful and confusing. Especially if your friend is the one stepping away.
You may start to question yourself. I thought we were closer than this. How could I have gotten it so wrong?
Sometimes you just miss the person and remember the way it used to be.
Other times you may feel hurt or angry.
As the season shifts on the friendship, accept it and have gratitude for all that you’ve received from it including the painful learning.
And then…..let it go.
And for the friendships you still have?
Take the time to cultivate those the same way you would a romantic relationship. Call. Text. Set up a time to get together. And follow through with the plan!
And if you are currently in the market for a new friend or two? Seek out opportunities in areas that you are interested in - Art? Nature? Dance? Volunteering? And if you’re not sure what those are then start with getting curious about yourself and your interests through inquiry (see how it always starts with you? ;)).
As the month wraps up, I encourage you to think about all the relationships you have in your life and share 2 of your key takeaways from this month to support the other moms in our Thriving Moms Collective Group.
Whatever season of your life or relationships you are in, it may make it a little easier to know you don’t have to do it alone.
Living BRIGHTer is...
B - Be Brave
R - Cultivate Relationships
I - Live with Intention
G - Practice Gratitude
H - Prioritize Health
T - Live your Truth
What is Magenta?
The color magenta is one of universal harmony and emotional balance. It is spiritual yet practical, encouraging common sense and a balanced outlook on life. Magenta helps to create harmony and balance in every aspect of life; physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
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