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Empower Yourself with the Power of Choice: Focus on What You Can Control

Your Magenta Monday Magic.

I don’t know what the weather has been like where you are, but in my neck of the woods, the past couple of months have been a little bleak. We went from May gray to June gloom and after a while, it really started to get to me. I found that I was tempted to complain about the weather… but I stopped myself!

As much as it's tempting to complain when I don't like something that's happening during a mom midlife crisis, I've learned to pause whenever I start to go down that path. This pause allows me to reflect on the situation and find a more positive and proactive approach to dealing with the challenges. It's a valuable reminder that in the face of difficulties, I have the power to choose my perspective and response. By taking a step back and reframing my thoughts, I can navigate through the midlife crisis with resilience and a renewed sense of purpose.

🛑 I stop and ask myself: can I control this?

✅ If the answer is yes – then I choose to take the steps to do so.

🚫 If the answer is no – then I choose to stop bitching about it and focus on something I can control - like my attitude! 🙅‍♀️

Not only does making the choice to reinvent yourself after the empty nest phase make me feel better, but it also stops me from spreading misery around to others, and it frees my mind up to focus on more important and positive things. By embracing this opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery, I can channel my energy into exploring new passions, setting new goals, and finding fulfillment in this new chapter of life. This shift in focus not only benefits me but also radiates positivity to those around me, creating a ripple effect of inspiration and joy.

We’re focused on choice this month – looking at how the little choices you make really have the biggest impact. In this instance, when you choose not to complain about something you can’t control, you are impacting your life and the life of those around you.

You're choosing to put your focus on what you CAN control, finding purpose as an empty nester. By directing your energy towards the positive aspects of this new phase of life, you're not only benefiting yourself but also sharing that positivity with the people around you. Embracing this opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery allows you to radiate a sense of purpose and fulfillment, which can inspire and uplift others. Chances are, those around you will appreciate and be encouraged by your optimistic outlook, creating a supportive and uplifting environment for everyone involved.


Monday Mindshift

It’s the 1° shift that makes the biggest difference over time.

What have you found yourself wanting to complain about? Maybe it’s about how unhealthy you feel?

Try using my YES or NO questions with what’s bothering you. Ask yourself: Can I control this?

Yes – you absolutely can! 🙆‍♀️

So rather than focusing on the negative way you’re feeling, try making a different choice. Choose to put your focus somewhere positive instead. 🔎

Focus on the steps you can take to help yourself feel better. I can think of a few possibilities:

You could:

  • Put together a plan for some healthy meals you can make for the upcoming week

  • Write up a shopping list and book some advance meal prep time into your calendar to set yourself a healthy eating success.

  • Plan to take a break from drinking for a set amount of time and make a list of healthy non-alcoholic beverages to substitute in instead. Iced green tea, freshly squeezed lemonade, sparkling water with lime… the only limit is your imagination!

  • Get up and go for a brisk walk – and think about how you can make that a daily thing. Instead of being focused on how poorly you feel, you’ll start to feel more energized before you know it.

  • Sign up for a class at your gym so you have a scheduled time to get yourself moving. If you don’t belong to a gym – find one to join!

Choose one item at a time, then continue to add on. Once you start making a list, I can almost guarantee you’ll start to feel a little better. 😃

And here’s a tip - if you want to be successful, ask a friend or someone you trust to be your accountability buddy!

The steps described above aren’t massive, sweeping changes. They’re tiny actions that all stem from the choice to focus on what you CAN control. So whatever your complaint is, it is entirely within your control to change it.

What will you choose?


Living BRIGHTer is...

B - Be Brave

R - Cultivate Relationships

I - Live with Intention

G - Practice Gratitude

H - Prioritize Health

T - Live your Truth

What is Magenta?

The color magenta is one of universal harmony and emotional balance. It is spiritual yet practical, encouraging common sense and a balanced outlook on life. Magenta helps to create harmony and balance in every aspect of life; physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

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