Your Magenta Monday Magic.
So far this month we’ve been exploring how being brave can help you navigate your journey to rediscover who you are beyond all the roles you’ve taken on, and the messages you’ve been programmed with, over the past few decades. We’ve touched on loving yourself as one of the most powerful ways to make your way back to who you are at your very core and deal with the midlife crisis. 🧘♀️
This is a lot to process! If you find yourself feeling a bit overwhelmed – that’s okay! As always, give yourself space, grace, and compassion, and take this part of the journey at your own pace.
Today, I want to dive into the importance of honesty and explore the role it plays on your journey back to you. And let me tell you, true honesty takes REAL bravery – and first and foremost, it starts with getting honest with yourself.
Being truly honest with yourself involves asking some tough questions – ones you may not exactly want to know the answers to. You know the ones... What if my husband and I are no longer compatible? What if my ‘dream’ job is no longer fulfilling? What if this life I’ve created for myself no longer fits? 🤔
It takes bravery to even ask yourself these questions.
Who knows what the answers might leave you with. What happens if you strip away everything you’ve ever known about yourself. What will you be left with then?
The answers to those questions can be very scary. But even scarier? Being in denial about the truth of your life and midlife crisis.
When you’re in denial, you can’t take accountability for anything…. And when you don’t take accountability for yourself – for your life – you become completely disempowered. When you’re in that place, you cannot effect change. If that’s where you’re stuck, you’ll never be able to take the steps necessary to return to your authentic self.
In other words, it’s only by taking accountability for your life – and accepting the truth whether it’s good, bad, or ugly – that you get your power back. 🏋️♀️
I’ve been there, so I speak from experience. I took an honest, unsparing look at the life I had carefully crafted and curated around a family who I loved, and I realized that there was something missing. And even though I tried to ignore it for a long time – even though I tried to deny that truth – it kept bubbling up to the surface until finally, it became untenable. The only relief I was able to find came through getting honest with myself. I had to hold myself accountable to the truth within me.
It wasn’t until I got honest with myself and my husband that I started understanding what needed to change. It wasn’t until I knew where I was that I could figure out where to go next.
It wasn’t pretty either – in fact, it was quite the opposite. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through. It was painful and messy and a downright shitshow as I worked my way through it to be honest. 😫
But what I know today is this: If I hadn’t found the courage to take that first step, to acknowledge that I wasn’t happy and that something had to change, I wouldn’t be living the beautiful life that I have today.
I can also tell you – with 100% certainty – that I would do it all over again. 😊
Monday Mindshift
It’s the 1° shift that makes the biggest difference over time.
Take some time to reflect on the major areas in your life, so you can start asking some of those tough questions. Are you happy with your job? Are you happy in your marriage or with your partner? Do you feel like you are getting what you need? What do you need more of?
Pay attention to what happens in your body when you think about each area of your life. Does it feel constricted? Or expansive? 🔎
Once you get a feel for the lay of the land, be honest with yourself about what you think needs to happen next. This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to quit your job or file for divorce. What it might involve is talking with your boss about some different projects you’d like to take on, or maybe even starting to look for a different position. It might mean talking to your partner about how you’re feeling and perhaps starting therapy or counseling together.
Remember until you figure out where you are, you won’t be able to figure out where you want to go next. So take a deep breath, muster all the bravery you can, and start getting honest with you. ❤️
Living BRIGHTer is...
B - Be Brave
R - Cultivate Relationships
I - Live with Intention
G - Practice Gratitude
H - Prioritize Health
T - Live your Truth
What is Magenta?
The color magenta is one of universal harmony and emotional balance. It is spiritual yet practical, encouraging common sense and a balanced outlook on life. Magenta helps to create harmony and balance in every aspect of life; physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
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