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Choosing Your Circle: Surrounding Yourself with Positive and Supportive People

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Surrounding Yourself with Positive and Supportive People

How is it going for you so far this month with reflecting on the power of choice to create the life you want? Have you started to choose more of what you want in your life?

Today I’d like to shift things ever so slightly and turn our attention from WHAT you have in your life to WHO.

Think about the many people who you spend your time with during a mom midlife crisis – family, friends, coworkers, and acquaintances. Are there people on that list who bring you down – who leave you feeling drained or depleted of energy after any amount of time spent with them? It's important to recognize the impact that these individuals may have on your well-being and take steps to protect yourself. Surrounding yourself with positive influences and supportive people can make a significant difference in navigating through the challenges of a midlife crisis. By prioritizing relationships that uplift and energize you, you can create a more nurturing and empowering social circle that contributes to your overall happiness and resilience.

You know the ones – the local gossips who talk about other people as a way to make themselves feel better. The ones who like to zero in on the negative side of everything and everyone. Or maybe they complain constantly about their own lives, but no matter how many helpful suggestions you offer, they never choose to take action?

It’s like a racket – like they get something out of complaining. Whatever the case, it’s not serving you to be around them.

But guess what? You have a choice!

So maybe you have to put your time in with Aunt Gladys as you navigate the process of reinventing yourself after the empty nest because it's the right thing to do. But even in that, there is a choice – you can choose not to engage when she goes on a rant about politics, for example. By setting boundaries and consciously deciding which conversations to participate in, you have the power to protect your own emotional well-being. Focus on engaging in discussions and activities that align with your interests and bring you joy. This way, you can prioritize your own personal growth and reinvention while maintaining a positive and fulfilling social dynamic.

I’m not suggesting you abandon anyone you love in their time of need, but let’s face it, some people just thrive on drama. Instead of hanging out with them by default, you can make a different choice.

You can choose to connect with people who lift you up. 🙋‍♀️

“Be true to yourself and surround yourself with positive, supportive people.” Payal Kadakia

You ARE worthy of living a life you love – and doing that consists of so many small things – things that combine together to make a huge impact in the long term. It may feel like a small thing to choose to spend your time with people who feed your soul rather than tear you down, but it is a critical piece! The people you spend the most time with dictate the conversations you have and influence what you end up focusing on.

Your time is precious, especially as you navigate the journey of finding purpose as an empty nester. Spend it wisely by surrounding yourself with people who will add to your life rather than detract from it. Seek out individuals who share similar values and contribute to the kind of life you've envisioned for yourself. By choosing to engage with those who align with your aspirations and aspirations, you can create a supportive and uplifting social circle. This intentional selection of relationships will not only enhance your personal growth but also cultivate a fulfilling and purpose-driven life as an empty nester.

It will take some time and energy to make this kind of shift but trust me – it is so worth it when you start to choose for you.


Monday Mindshift

It’s the 1° shift that makes the biggest difference over time.

Think about the people you spend time with. How do you feel after you leave them?

Do you feel uplifted? Energized? Positive? Or do you feel negative? Sad or depressed?

Maybe when you’re with them you drink too much or you eat poorly and that conflicts with your personal health goals? Or maybe you don’t like the way they treat others – whether they talk about mutual friends behind their backs, or they speak to others rudely? Maybe they have a knack for always finding the negative side of everything? And maybe you find yourself going right along with them….

Or maybe you are always available for them when they need you, but they’re never around when you need something in return.

It may not be easy to take an honest, unsparing inventory of who shares your time, but I encourage you to push your way through – and then to start scheduling less time with the people who bring you down, and more time with those who lift you up.

I encourage you to choose for YOU.



Living BRIGHTer is...

B - Be Brave

R - Cultivate Relationships

I - Live with Intention

G - Practice Gratitude

H - Prioritize Health

T - Live your Truth

What is Magenta?

The color magenta is one of universal harmony and emotional balance. It is spiritual yet practical, encouraging common sense and a balanced outlook on life. Magenta helps to create harmony and balance in every aspect of life; physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

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